04 August 2009
Posted in Attracting Women
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The aim of this post is to enlighten you in the 16 laws of attraction that will allow you to be an irresistible man and have any girl you desire.
Not only will you discover the 16 laws it takes to become an irresistible man, but these 16 laws are universal in any area of your life. You can use the same laws in your job, education, friendships or anything. Reading this post will be one of the best things you'll have done today, I will guarantee you that.
This post is for all the guys who believe they're not enough, or think they are out of their league with a certain women that they desire. I will shake your belief system and guide you towards a healthier belief system where you can be and achieve anything you want.
1. Accept everything the way it is
This is law one. Before you can continue with the other fifteen laws you must accept everything the way it currently is, in your life. Accept your job, accept your relationship - just accept everything the way it is.
The only way you can evolve as a human being is to firstly accept that you need to evolve. Accept there are things in your life that are not going to plan, things you feel you deserve more of. When you accept all these things you are in control. To be in control of your life is to have the ultimate power over your destiny and overall purpose here on this planet.
Take a moment to think about the way your life currently is, think about your financial situation and think about your social situation and everything else you have going on. Once you've done this, move on to law two.
2. Take Responsibility
You need to take complete 100% responsibility for everything in your life that you thought of in law one. Everything you are today is because of you. You are your own doing. After you've accepted what you are and you've taken responsibility for the entire course of your life you can begin the process of improving areas you are not happy with.
Women can see the men who have inner issues. They can see you if you are hiding things. They can feel you when you blame someone else for your misfortunes. These behaviours will be eliminated now. To move forward to the next law you need to take full responsibility.
3. Work on yourself, not others
Think of a woman you are attracted to. How does she make you feel? Does she make you feel nervous? Does she make you feel you've got to wear your best clothes around her? Does she make you feel that you've got to impress her at every step? No. She doesn't make you feel anything. You make yourself feel this way. There is no need for you to work on her by impressing her, since the issues of you thinking you need to impress her are all internal. It's yourself that is the issue.
You've taken responsibility for who you are. Now you can start unwinding the negative parts of your situation. If you spend the majority of your time ‘working' when you're interacting with a woman, you're doing it wrong. It should flow.
4. Stop making identity meaning from external events, things or people
You are not your car. You are not your house. You are not your money. You are nothing external, (external will be everything that is outside of you), so there is no need to think you are. Believing you can't get that girl because you've not got enough money, or a nice enough car won't get you far. You need to severe the connection you have with associating yourself as anything external.
When you are called a name, let's pick ‘loser', that does not mean you are a loser. This is an external event and therefore has no impact on your inner identity. These things should be shrugged off as mere childish behaviour from the person providing it. If you are struggling with inner identity issues then most likely you are accepting external events as being true and you question yourself. Questioning yourself will allow the external event to grow inside of you like a cancer until you start believing it's an internal identity that you carry.
Let go of all external events and issues that you currently carry and from this second onwards, deny all further external events, things or people that judge you in anyway shape or form. You make your inner identity decisions, no-one else.
5. Failure is great; it's the best learning process
Without failure you wouldn't be half the person you are now. When you successfully complete something you gain what you want. When you fail something you don't gain what you want. There is only one major difference with success and failure and that when you fail, you learn a great lesson. Learning that lesson in most cases is more important than what you gained for succeeding. This means you should go and ask that girl out that you've been considering for awhile, you should go for that new job, you should do it because whatever happens you will gain something.
6. Compare your progress only with yourself
Everyone is different and there will always be people better than you and worse than you, this is just a fact with the amount of people running around today. When you achieve something you should only compare it to your previous achievements and see how far you've come personally. Comparing to other people will put your achievements in the hands of the external and as we covered earlier, you need to stop making internal meaning from external events.
If you don't measure up success wise to one of your friends, this doesn't mean you're a failure. It means you are on a different race track and you're running a different pace. You may have a friend who ‘scores' ten ‘chicks' a week. This is not something to beat or challenge and you shouldn't be reading posts such as this to do such a thing, because it will almost always end in failure and as we talked about earlier, failure leads to a great learning. So I'm saving you time by telling you now that the great learning you will learn is that you don't need to compare yourself against other people, only yourself.
7. Evolve constantly
Do you read? If you don't, you should. If you do, you should read more. I'm not being mean by saying that to you, I'm just saying that you should evolve constantly. Always move forward towards what you want. Always improve yourself with new ideas and information developed by other people. Always develop yourself with new experience by doing new things. Ever climbed a mountain? Go for it!
Evolving constantly should be something you do for yourself. Make sure you remember that you are not evolving for your wife, your boss, your friends or that girl you want. You are evolving for yourself, which brings us to the next law.
8. Stop seeking approval
You do not need approval for anything you do. You especially do not need approval from women in the sense that you approach them and basically ask for it by feeding them something like "Can I ask your name?" Approval seeking is bad because it shows your inner confidence and how much you lack it.
The only person that should give you approval is yourself. When you've done a good job, you should congratulate yourself and pat yourself on the back. Don't do things to achieve approval from others because in the long run you will be disappointed.
9. Make yourself the centre
Do you hold any beliefs such as extremely good looking women are above you? Or are not equal to you in any way shape or form? If so, you need to delete that belief. You need to make yourself the centre. This basically means that you are in charge of you. There is no-one above you that has the ability to dictate to you your way of life. Being the centre, everything revolves around you.
Most people assume when I say that I'm asking you to be selfish and arrogant. Believe me I'm not saying that. I'm merely saying that you should hold yourself in high regard instead of holding people above you. Everyone else is your equal. When someone looks up at you and thinks you are above them, help them. Show them how they can be the centre too. Do not get an ego around this law.
10. Aim for long term gratification
This means that you should completely stop your short term thinking. Short term thinking involves you doing something to gain here and now. For example, did you think this post would have gave you 16 perfectly good laws that'll change your life in 5 minutes as you read? I bet some of you did.
Instead of thinking about things short term, think long term. This means you need to plan the next year, 5 years, 10 years or whatever, instead of just planning tomorrow. By planning long term you put yourself in the frame of mind of a successful person and you will enjoy long it more. Short term is easy to plan, easy to get and easy to lose. Long term plans are the plans that last the rest of your life.
11. Never whine or complain
The first ten laws were very universal in their use. The last 6 laws will focus more on what you should do in order to attract that girl you really want.
Never whine or complain. Whining or complaining is the trademark of low status individuals who are not worth much. By whining or complaining you are basically telling everyone who sees you do it, that you have no control over your life and you are completely lost. This is a bad thing to do anywhere, let alone in front of a woman. A quality woman will have no time for you if you spend your time whining because you're not worth it. Eliminating all whining and complaining is the way forward.
12. Control your emotions
I don't mean become a robot. I simply mean for you to control your emotions that show weaknesses. To a certain extent, weakness can be sexy but for now I'd just like for you to limit the weak emotions you may show. This goes hand-in-hand with the previous law on no whining or complaining.
Women enjoy emotions, and enjoy being taken on an emotional rollercoaster but more often than not they're turned off by men who are too overly emotional since they are looking for a strong man who can look after them and not a weak little emotional man that they have to take care of, so any emotions you associate with being ‘weak' you should limit.
13. Be honest and direct
This is one of my favourite laws by far. By changing this simple thing about you can change so much in your life. Being honest and direct gives you so much status with women that it's unbelievable. I assume it's because it's not so common these days to find a man who will speak his mind and be completely blunt, honest and direct about anything. This shows complete self-confidence and strength as a man to be able to speak your mind without fear of repercussion.
As a warm blooded male you are bound by certain masculine traits that you are born with.These traits include dominance, strength and leadership. Women are hardwired to notice men who are leaders, they find them very sexy. Being a leader is a massive advantage in the dating world since you have the power to command.
If you aren't the leader of your social group now, maybe you should create another where you are the leader to test this out. I assure you that leadership is one of the gold coins of dating.
15. Don't be boring or predictable
Being boring or predictable will leave women wanting more. Women want the excitement and uncertainty of unpredictable men. They find it very thrilling. If you find yourself repeating the same routine day in day out, change, because you are boring.
16. Turn everything into an adventure
This again is one of my favourite laws. Being a man of adventure is a tough thing to do, but the rewards are endless. If you treat everything as an adventure not only will the women notice but they will queue up to go on the adventure with you. This is an extremely manly trait to show and this is the final law of the 16 that you need to attract that perfect woman. Be that man of adventure.
If you've read all 16 laws, good on you, since you are one of the small percentage of people who are truly looking to make themselves better as a human being. Anyone seeking self-improvement have my deepest respect since I believe it's paramount to anything you want to achieve in life. As for this post, I know that if you adopt all these 16 laws that you will find yourself very soon in any situation you want to be in. Whether that's the perfect job, the perfect home, the perfect relationship with that perfect girl or in that perfect threesome with two perfect girls. There is no limitation.
I’d love to hear your opinions on these laws, post them in the comments and I’ll get back to you or check out what do men find attractive in women for another interesting read.
Craig is a 22-year-old student studying psychology at Bournemouth Uni. He runs a dating blog aimed at helping every man get the perfect relationship through the psychology of dating.