13 October 2009
Posted in Attracting Women
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Hello and welcome! Reading this post will teach you how important saying "No" is to your sex life. You'll see how it's normally the needy man who always responds with "Yes".
The Power of "No"
Think big, think busy, think important. That's what you are, you're kind of a big deal, therefore you should respond like it.
No is a powerful answer for many reasons, firstly - because it commands attention and respect. Someone who is willing to say a straight "No" to a request must have balls, self-respect and a high status. Have you ever asked a beautiful woman out? Did she respond with "No"? If so, you already understand the power of "No".
Secondly, it shows you value your time, possessions and your standards. Saying "No" to a request for your time is powerful if used correctly, it shows that you're time has to be earned and cannot simply be requested.
Always Say No to Unreasonable Requests (In-fact - Always Say No To Requests)
Now that you understand the power of "No" you're able to take it for a test-drive. Next time a woman asks you for something, whether it's an innocent request or not - respond with "No". If done in a playful, yet dominant way - she'll immediately triple her attraction for you since you're value as a man has increased. All from a little word that's heavily underused in today's social environment.
Important part, don't skip! It's all well and good to say "No" to requests you feel are unreasonable but what about if you want to do the request? Use "Maybe".
The Power of "Maybe"
Maybe is like an evil twin of "Yes" and "No" who has enjoyment from causing sexual tension between you and any woman you aim it at. Maybe is a relatively 'safe' word since it can imply any path, as long as you only reserve it for the use of requests you'd like to do, you'll find it plays out wonderfully.
Needy guys say yes. Therefore, you should limit your responses to either "No" or "Maybe". If you're uncomfortable switching straight to "No" then take "Maybe" out for a trial-run. It's a much more comfortable way to respond without having to resort to the needy "Yes Master".
- Craig: Hey
- Her: Hey
- Craig: Let's go out on a date tonight.
- Her: Ok, pick up me at 8.
- Craig: No, I'll pick you up at 8:30.
- Her: *I hope he's got a stable bed because I'm gonna test it tonight.*
- John: Hey
- Her: Hey
- John: Let's go out on a date tonight.
- Her: Ok, pick me up at 8.
- John: Yes.
- Her: *I wonder how much I could make him spend on my meal while I secretly text Craig under the table*
- Barney: Hey
- Her: Hey
- Barney: Let's go out on a date tonight.
- Her: Ok, pick me up a t 8.
- Barney: Maybe. I'll probably be there at 8:30.
- Her: *Ohhh... he's too busy for me? I must know more about this man!*
As long as you always remember to never give a straight answer, unless it's "No" you'll be completely fine, dating-wise. Maybe can be a backup plan if you're not 100% comfortable using "No", but eventually you want to respond with "No" to all requests you feel aren't reasonable.
Craig is a 22-year-old student studying psychology at Bournemouth Uni. He runs a dating blog aimed at helping every man get the perfect relationship through the psychology of dating.