02 February 2010
Posted in Dating 101
Image courtesy of Mario EA
Belief. Believing you can do something automatically enables you to do it - therefore, why not believe you're the best thing since slice bread as far as women are concerned?
One of the main reasons men get help back from attracting the woman of their dreams comes down to simple beliefs they carry around which limits their progress. Common examples:
- They think I’m ugly
- I will be seen as boring because I don't know what to say
- I’ll be too nervous to even approach her
I'm sure you can see why these beliefs could limit you but here's a simple way to turn them around in with one method that made me irresistible to beautiful women - re-framing.
The act of re-framing is converting the negative belief into a positive belief by changing a few key words. For example the previous list can be changed to:
- They won’t care of my physical appearance
- I’ll know what to say because they will be relaxed
- I’m nervous of rejection but not afraid to change
The beliefs are not instantly better. No more will you doubt yourself into defeat, instead you'll march head in with your new belief structure since you are an irresistible piece of man gold that can't be rejected from your goals - only delayed.
You can do anything
I love reassuring myself I can do anything because now it's completely automated and I know I can - and so can you. The main obstacle is your own intelligence, especially if you're very intelligent. Smart men tend to convince themselves their original beliefs must be right (I'm ugly etc) and tend to stick with them longer. If this is you, you need to get over your intelligence.
Here's 3 things to think about:
- Life isn't fair... and that's awesome
- Luck is choice, you are the only person who truly cares about your success
- Classic line from Deangelo: "You are in my reality and you are a guest"
What thoughts are flying around with these 3 things, what do they mean to you? I'd love to know in the comments.
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