14 January 2010
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Dating 101
Hi everyone, this my first post on Psyduction and I'm going to take this opportunity to bring you some man tips to help out the endangered species that is the real-man. Why are real-men endangered? I'm not 100% sure, it could be a few reasons - help me out in the comments if you've got a theory.
Today I'm gonna share some man-tips with you that'll teach you how to be a man-machine of everything sexual.
1. Comfort
Every time you get into a situation you're uncomfortable in you start to get needy. This isn't sexy. If you end up in an uncomfortable situation, don't worry. Just man-up and see it for what it really is - a challenge! A man-challenge! Failure of the challenge alerts women to back off and that's the last thing you want.
2. Nothing is a big deal
NOTHING! Even if she rejects you in front of 1,000's of people on stage - it's not a big deal. Other women in the audience would be thinking "wow, that man has huge balls", so use that to your advantage. If you don't take anything as a big deal, generally the rule states that big deals will seize to occur.
3. Keep your behaviour
If your start the night as a man-hulk and it's working, you need to prolong it the entire night. If you shift behaviours half way through the night she's going to know some thing's fishy and lose attraction fairly quickly. Especially if you went from man-hulk to choir boy.
4. You are big brother, she's little bratty sister
Have you got a sister? If you have, you know exactly how to go about teasing her. If not, here's something to learn: women love being teased. Normally women get what they want handed to them on a silver platter from men. So when you come along and tease her by asking why she's wearing a cardigan you're sure your nan has you break straight through her boy-rejection mechanisms into her real-man category.
5. Questions - More teasing
If you've sat through a woman's question barrage you know how boring and tedious it can become. So instead, answer with random answers such as occupation: professional stripper, and watch her get even more mystified by you. Or, you could simply not answer them and use the golden word "Maybe".
6. Nicknames
Nicknames are gold. Pure 90-carrot-man-gold. Nothing shows confidence and manliness faster than giving a woman a nickname, especially if you've just met her. My favourite consists of Polly (as in Polly pocket), power puff (as in the girls) and brat. Although, I did help a man-friend recently nickname a woman with "Doug" that works just as well. When giving out a nickname you want to think up a name that's slightly demeaning and/or critical but one you both find funny. Don't take this as an opportunity to take the piss harshly or you'll need to start again with another woman, as she'd be gone.
7. Mannerisms
Woman are often all over the shop and do weird mannerism things. My girlfriend has a bag, in a bag in a bag and carries it around? I mean, wtf? Only a woman could do such a thing. So when you're in a situation where you notice something like that from a woman, bring it up and mention how weird it is. Women look for validation so if you pull this off, she'll stick to you until you give her it.
8. Your walk
Being congruent is very important and if you are talking and acting like the man's man but walk like a 14 year old male cheerleader then you need to sit down and sort it out. Walk like a man, walk slow, confidently and take up space - it's your space after all, so use it.
9. Don't aim for anything
Women can tell if you're talking to them because you want sex. Enter the situation and have fun without any outcome and your manliness enters new bounds of glory. If you see every opportunity as a fun encounter you'll be irresistible and most likely end up having sex anyway.
10. If she's with you, she likes you
Believe it. Doesn't matter if she backs away from a kiss, she's with you and that's all that matters. Boys often believe woman are constantly picking at them and testing them the entire time they're together but fail to realise that single golden point - she wouldn't be there, if she didn't like you. If you were once in the boy category, get yourself into the man category and embrace that point.
11. EXTRA: You can get away with anything
Extra tip to take away which deserves a post of it's own. If you're confidence enough with a strong enough manliness - you can get away with anything. And I've tested this to the max, believe me. I've acted like an arsehole, pushed all boundaries and get away with it - why? Because I'm a man and following these tips will lead you there too.
Got any man-tips I've left out? Take some time to comment and I'll get back to you.
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If they girls are getting ticked, its because your presence is weak or your delivery is incongruent.
If the guys are getting ticked, its because its workin.
This whole blog is crap.
I think CandleJack summed it up rather well. Everything works with confidence and authority.
@AnonPlayBoy
You entitled to your opinion but I can't take it seriously if you called yourself 'AnonPlayBoy' lol :)
The idea is to find a way to make them fit your unique "style" which in many cases means you have to modify the advise to tailor your specific needs.
A lot of your success depends on your attitude, look at rejection as not a "failure" but an "opportunity" a chance to better yourself - don't just "brush them off" but don't take them to heart. You are human, learn, adapt, and progress, or learn to be content at square one.
If you're able to send mixed signals, you will benefit greatly, as women think more emotionally than men do (in normal cases, there is an exception to every rule you've ever learned, and this is no exception)
As for some tips I'd like to see added:
1. It's a big help to expect nothing, for multiple reasons, but it's also great that after you've talked for a specific girl for a bit to say something like.. "I'm really glad I met you, I think you'll make a great friend" (This is something I used myself tonight, with great results) It serves many purposes: 1. It reassures that you're not just trying to get in their pants (even if you are) which allows them to relax around you, and often the girl will go out of her way to continue the conversation 2. It shows that you're not needy, and it makes her think that you're not attracted to her (which will help you in all sorts of ways) 3. It's not a compliment a girl hears very often at all, which makes you unique, it makes her curious, and almost instantly turns her on to you.
2. A girl loves to ask questions like.. "Have you ever been in love?" What they're really asking is.. "Are you afraid to commit, and do other girls find you desirable enough to be with?" Most people (girls and guys alike) will be like.. "Yeah, I had a girlfriend for three years, but I don't even know why I loved her, I hate her now" ...It's not a very good idea, and it even goes against one of the tips already mentioned here. It's much better to say something like.. "Yeah, I thought I was in love once, but it didn't really work out.. And to be honest I hated her for a while.. But you know, I'm the kind of person that likes to see the good side of a bad situation, and I like to think that in some cases bad situations can teach me more than the good ones" It shows her that if things don't work out, that you won't take it personally, and you won't try to mess things up for her in the future.
3. Don't ever give a girl something when she asks, instead just wait, and surprise her with it later - this is gold even if you're in a relationship because it shows the girl a few things 1. You're a man, and you won't be whipped like every other guy that's lucky enough to get with the girl 2. When a girl says something like.. "I dropped my cellphone in the toilet.. and now I don't have a way to get messages from my work to know when they need me.." try to change the subject, and then a few days to a week later, fix whatever she was complaining about. This shows that you listen to her, you care about her, and if you were to solve the problem instantly it is almost an insult to her because she was so stressed about something that you solved instantly.
I have more to contribute, and if I get some decent feedback I'll post here some more.
All in all, nice tips - and keep up the good work.
Surely you meant "cease" to occur.
"Pure 90-[carrot]-man-gold."
Maybe use "Carat" or even "Karat" next time.
There are more mistakes but I have wasted enough time.
This article should be deleted from the internet and our lives.