2 Things That Women Really Hate About Men

29 September 2009
Posted in Dating 101

The aim of this post is to identify and understand 2 things that women really hate about men. Basically the 2 things are a weak sense of reality and seeking validation.

1. Women Hate Men who Seek Validation

I'm sure you've heard this point before, but seeking validation is a little boys game. Women don't want boys, they want men - therefore the act of seeking validation for your actions only encourages women to use and abuse you.

The perfect example would definitely have to be the stereotype of the 'geek'. A geek would go out of his way to seek validation for his lifestyle or possessions. He'd actively make a woman accept his lifestyle and accept his way of doing things by seeking her validation. Which to her seems incredibly needy and unattractive.

How to cure an attitude were you seek validation? = DON'T SEEK IT! Be happy with you, your life and everything you own. You don't need to validate anything of yourself to anyone - if they don't accept you, it's their problem. You want to make sure you validate your own life, then that's all that matters.

2. Women Hate Men With a Weak Sense of Reality

A man with a weak sense of reality is basically a man who cannot think for himself. This point kind of rolls in from the previous point on seeking validation but takes it to a whole new level.

As a man, women expect you to have a firm grip on your life, basically - for you to know what's happening. That's one of the greatest attraction points because women need to know you can handle your life before they can even consider having sex with you.

A great example would be an emotional type or a 'mammy's boy'. I'm sure you're already seeing images flying around in your mind about how a mommy's boy has a low self-esteem and a weak sense of reality and I'm sure you probably know some guy I'm referring to.

Anyone who thinks for themselves and questions certain beliefs, structures and social enforcement has a strong sense of reality and is seen as a high status individual worthy of leadership. That's where you want to be. Especially if you feel a weak sense of reality is what's keeping you single.

The perfect way to cure a weak sense of reality is to begin being assertive and confident about who you are and what you like. If someone has a go at you for your type of a music, be assertive and tell them that they're entitled to their opinion but you think it's bollocks.

Women find assertive men who have a strong sense of reality very, very attractive, if that isn't you - 16 laws that'll get you that girl can help you out.

Craig is a 22-year-old student studying psychology at Bournemouth Uni. He runs a dating blog aimed at helping every man get the perfect relationship through the psychology of dating.

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Sexy Comments (6)

written by Craig, September 29, 2009

Know anything else women really hate? Go ahead and post a comment with your opinion - We'd all love to see more!

written by kate, September 29, 2009

Um, got to say but you're right with weak men, they really annoy me lol

written by Grant, September 29, 2009

I wouldn't go as far as to say women hate these characteristics but I agree they're definitely not favourable.

written by Jen, September 29, 2009

3. Women hate men who are too nice

written by Craig, September 29, 2009

@Kate

Glad you agree :)

@Grant

Maybe hate is a strong word but as you said, their definitely not favourable!

@Jen

lol I wouldn't go that far. Even though it's not too far from the truth.


Thanks for the comments all!

written by Louise, October 01, 2009

Weak men are definitely unattractive to us women - we want someone who knows what he wants and how to get it. But men, don't fall into the trap of being too much so or you'll end up being arrogant and THAT is definitely NOT sexy!

Vulnerability is a female characteristic so we very much seek a strong man who will look after us.