Get Rid Of Your Inner Wussy Once and For All

04 February 2010
Posted in Dating 101

Image courtesy of C. Pedersen

Don't you hate how sometimes nerves and thoughts get the better of you? We all go through it, doesn't matter how confident and successful you become. This is all down to the inner wussy messing with our perception and here's how to get rid of it, once and for all.

Psychology of the Wussy

The wussy is nothing more than an avoidant victim nice guy. Well in beliefs anyway. To understand and eliminate the inner wussy we'll need to break it down to it's bare bones, see it for what it really is then get rid of it. The wussy is comprised of 3 parts in my opinion, which are:

1. Avoid - The wussy drives us towards validation and/or acceptance
2. Victim - The wussy drives us towards no responsibility and a collection of people to feel sorry for us
3. Nice guy - The wussy drives us towards being the 'nice guy'. A set of beliefs which enable us to go out of our way to help in any circumstance (often by lowering themselves) and secretly believe their better than anyone.

With thew wussy broken down to it's bare bones you can see the real face of our common enemy. It's healthy to see problems for what they really are because now you can reject the beliefs based on knowledge. To get rid of the wussy we also need to understand the 3 types:

1. "She's different" wussy
2. "I want her to like me for me" wussy
3. "I love this one girl..." wussy

To dispel the 3 types quickly - no she's not different, if you want her to like you for you - you'll go months without dates and if you love that once girl who isn't interested in you, you'll end up obsessed. To remind myself of wussy traits I simply think of this quote, which happens to also be the title of a rather interesting book: Nice guys sleep alone.

To kill the wussy

Now that we understand the psychology and types of wussy we're able to deliver the killing blow through re-framing and powerful beliefs:

1. Attraction is not a choice (credit to David Deangelo)
2. I am the power
3. There's enough of everything I want everywhere
4. Nothing is real, it's all in my mind

For me, my beliefs make the difference and believing the above beliefs will kill the inner wussy. It's hard to hold conflicting beliefs - especially since the mind can only hold one thought at one time. The most dominant belief will win which is decided by how much you want to believe. For more, read 1 method that made me irresistible to beautiful women and remember, believe you are and you are.

I'm sure there's plenty more beliefs floating around out there, anyone got any good ones?

Tyler Logan is kind of a big deal. He blog's man-advice to every man-boy who stumbles in. Permanently altering manliness to epic proportions. (Blog best read shirtless and oiled)

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Sexy Comments (2)

written by dan (okay!), March 08, 2010

well done again! :: applause ::

As i mentioned in a previous response to a post, a lot of those things from the past (for me, I would be referring to my teenage years), at the time seemed completely unbelievable and perplexing. Women and their little ways have indeed been baffling men since the beginning of mankind! However, with a little knowledge of female psychology, perhaps a little bit of info on "pick up" (if you want to call it that), along with the acceptance that one's lack of success is the fault of the self, not of our social environment; one can achieve what he/she truly desires. Speaking personally, I'm not ashamed to admit that I was once a victim of what you might call "inner wussy sydrome" (may I call it that?) and although I did have some limited success with women around this time, in truth it should've been at least double what it was. I suppose I "woke up" in my early 20s (I'm 26 now). I become interested in this stuff about 6 months ago and basically a lot of the things I came to discover were, in fact right in front of me and I've learned a whole lot more since I've started reading up on this remarkable topic.

I would like to draw to everyone's attention, if I may, to two more points, further validating this post;

* It's quite refreshing to know that women are usually equally as baffled by men, as we are by women. We need each other. It's simple evolution/ human biology/ sociology/ psychology/ common f**king sense. One of the things that draws a woman to a man like a magnet is understanding why she thinks the way she does. She then thinks that you understand her as a person, because in her head she considers herself different from all other women (in reality, many of their antics are quite predictable, whether she likes it or not). Understanding the fundamentals of female psychology will aid your success with women tremendously.

* Next time you see a "natural" with women, take a good look at him (but don't be too obvious, naturally). You'll notice a few things. Is his body language assertive and confident? (yes) is he dressed presentably, not draped in designer clothes (which is a cry of desperation), yet trendy? (yes) Is he trying to "buy" her affection with drinks/ impress her by talking about money etc? (no) and most importantly of all, is he really that good looking? (almost always, no) Most of the biggest Cassanova types are not actually that good looking. I think that final point right there is certainly worth remembering.

Keep it coming Tyler! Regards to Craig too! :)

written by Tyler, March 15, 2010

@Dan

Thanks!

Indeed, women at the start can seem a baffling subject but once you've got your head into a few psychology/biology books you can begin to unravel the mysteries and eventually understand woman for what they truly are. Incredibly sexy beings. :)

I do find it very surprising how often the people with the best knowledge of the 'game' were once a wussy. Me included.

Very nice additional points. Especially about watching naturals - I'll be writing a post similar to that point very soon.

I'll keep it coming! Thanks Dan!