24 November 2009
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Dating 101
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I'm sure you can accept there's hundreds of ways to fail when your interacting with women, but I feel there's one way that trumps all others
No Action
No action is by far the worst offender when it comes to men failing with women and I feel the biggest cause of no action is - learning.
If you're anything like me - you love to learn and enjoy reading about 'how to chat up girls' etc. But, do you feel the act of learning is actually keeping you back? Maybe, maybe not. But, the common answer from men is "But I'm learning so I don't fail".
Learning not to fail, is failing
You don't want to get into the habit of learning how to avoid failure. Failure is the greatest way to learn, since you experience it all head on. Using learning as an excuse to avoid gaining experience is the wrong way about it - instead it should be gaining experience to learn.
Don't get me wrong - I think learning has it's place. But, it shouldn't replace experience. Especially when you're learning experience orientated things, such as approaching women.
Life is going to happen
The longer you put off experience, the longer life has it's way with you. If you're not happy about your current relationship or you haven't met anyone yet - go out and find that perfect person. Don't read a book or my posts on how to do it, just go do it. Chances are - you'll find out for yourself.
The best way to use educational material such my posts is alongside experience - not instead of it.
If you feel you're in the group of people I'm talking about and you can see that your using education as an excuse to avoid experience then I'd like to set you a challenge.
Challenge: Next time you go to a shop to buy anything I want you to replace your normal "Thank you" with "Red Balloons" when your change it given. Say it in an upbeat, happy frame of mind and have fun with it. More you allow yourself to gain experience - the more you allow yourself to become successful and get that girl you truly desire.
If you're setting out to try my challenge I'd love a feedback comment and the story of how it went - I'd love to hear your view! Leave a comment and I'll get back to you.
Craig is a 22-year-old student studying psychology at Bournemouth Uni. He runs a dating blog aimed at helping every man get the perfect relationship through the psychology of dating.
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