27 July 2009
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Meeting Women
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This post unravels in length How to be a Master Pick-up Artist. The article covers 6 fundamentals that all master pickup artists have in common. Knowing these can allow you to progress.
What I’m about to share with you isn’t a secret. A lot of men who are successful with women know these back to front. These are the 6 fundamentals that master pick-up artists everywhere have in common.
Before I start I’d like to give you my definition of a master pick-up artist. My definition of a master pick-up artist is a man who has the ability to be a true man. A man who can enter any situation completely calm and cool, then leave that situation with any woman they desire. I believe the fundamental difference between a regular PUA (Pick-up artist) and a MPUA (Master pick-up artist) is that an MPUA can naturally do this in any situation while the PUA can only do it on one off occasions.
How to be a Pick-up Artist and Master it
Now that I’ve aired my mind on the definition of a master pick-up artist let's get into exactly what you need to become a master. You need the 6 fundamentals on how to be a pick up artist.
1. You must spend YEARS in constant, conscious self-improvement
This means you must study and experience all the dating scene has to offer, then more. I’ve been on number one for a long time. I started learning how to be a pick up artist and realised that learning how to pick-up women wasn’t the only thing I needed to learn. This drove my self-improvement path further, into related studies such as psychology.
This step will take years, so you must be willing to give it years. Achieving master in anything won’t be fast, patience is necessary.
2. You must study and understand female psychology
Female psychology is incredibly important, you must learn it. Believe me, once you pick up one book in this area, you will be hooked with fascination and interest. The females of our race are incredibly interesting; studying their psychology isn’t a weird or manipulative thing. We already know female psychology; we were born with the knowledge. We just forgot about it since it wasn’t necessary in our modern age. If you’ve never picked up a book on female psychology, now is the time. If you want to learn how to be a pick up artist then you need this.
3. You must develop social intuition
Developing social intuition isn’t easy, it take experience and practice. Social intuition is how you react in social situations, what you say and how your body language reacts. I have a friend who’s started to learn this area very recently and is picking up on the knowledge and experience very fast, but still finds some situations confusing.
Take it step by step, read related posts on the psychology side of the site. Then use what you learned in the real world and you will gain social intuition.
4. You must develop a lifestyle that women find attractive
This I feel is an important step and one I’m in the process of achieving. Firstly, if you don’t know what sort of lifestyle women would find attractive you need to study. There are plenty of resources available on this site that’ll allow you to grasp the majority of the knowledge you require in this area, so use it, it’s free.
A lifestyle change is necessary if you wish to learn how to be a pick up artist. This is because once you cross the line to master, you have changed for good. The lifestyle will reflect your inner frame of mind. Once you change on the inside the outside will reflect the changes.
The same is also true of the outside affecting the inside. So develop a lifestyle you think a master pick-up artist would live, if you’re not sure, then study. I won’t tell you the answer here, since there are many answers and each are debatable. It’s only important what you think, since your lifestyle needs to be congruent by how you feel on in the inside.
5. You must develop skills that allow YOUR own system to work
This is an important step. You need to realise that the techniques you learn from books, videos, audio, just simply may not work for you. The principles of the ideas are what count. That’s why you need to create your own system, consisting of your very own system of ideas, techniques and styles.
When you start doing this, you need to develop what you’re doing personally to help you. You can teach other people your techniques and ideas, but be aware they may not work for anyone, but you. That’s an important fundamental that master pick-up artists have. Create your own system and let it help you become the master you want to be. This will guide you on how to be a pick up artist.
6. Experience
A lot of people are stuck into the intellectual side of things. They believe that the can simply read every book, watch every video and listen to every tape and become a master. It does not work that way! You need the experience. Every single master pick-up artists has been on many ‘dates’. That’s how they developed enough self-evidence of their system to allow them to develop it further into the master phase.
A little recap of what I covered here, the 6 fundamentals are –
- You must spend YEARS in constant, conscious self-improvement
- You must study and understand female psychology
- You must develop social intuition
- You must develop a lifestyle that women find attractive
- You must develop skills that allow YOUR own system to work
- Experience
Come back to this list daily until you know them inside out. If you want to learn how to be a pick up artist then there is no compromise to these fundamentals, you simply need them. But if you like, there is a 'cheat' you can use in the form of the world's best chat-up line.
If you've got more you'd like to add to these fundamentals, especially if you've dabbled in pick-up yourself, please add them to the comments, your opinions are very valuable here.
Craig is a 22-year-old student studying psychology at Bournemouth Uni. He runs a dating blog aimed at helping every man get the perfect relationship through the psychology of dating.
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Who in their right mind will build their lifestyle around what women find attractive? That's kinda pathetic.
Thanks for that. Confidence is definitely a core quality.
@Roxxe
Thanks for your opinion, but I feel a lot of people aren't confident enough to 'just go and talk to a woman' so they seek advice/confidence boosters, like this information.
@Milan
I think you are missing the point. Generally, men live in lifestyles which are unattractive because of social conditioning. It's not changing for the woman, it's changing for yourself - attracting women would be a side effect.
Inner Game is absolutely vital in leaning pickup. You have to be the attractive guy and not just fake it. Inner Game contains one of the most important and obvious part of any interaction: Confidence.