02 December 2009
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Meeting Women
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Never, ever, ever, ever ever ever use "Excuse me, can I get you a drink?" as an opener or chat up line. Frankly, it's the very worst thing you can do. It's wrapping your testicles into a neat parcel and handing them over in exchange for a small amount of face time with a random woman. A very unattractive act!
If you've ever used, which can only be described as "the line" you will want to approach from a completely different angle. Act as if you're an amazingly important person who confidently commands power and status. Even though you're essentially acting, you do start feeling and conveying - confidence, status, leadership, dominance and utter manliness.
To pull it off correctly, you want to:
- Talk very slowly while making direct eye contact
- Never ask her to do anything, instead - instruct her
- Stand tall, chest out, back raised with your arms uncrossed
- Have high standards - don't approach women who look rough. Stick with what you really want.
To get yourself into the frame of mind, when you enter the club:
- Walk in slowly, stand by the entrance and slowly look around (Like you own the place)
- Still standing at the entrance, point at random people, smile and nod your head like you know them
Once you've got yourself feeling confident, dominant and important. You can begin approaching. But this time, instead of using "the line" - say something a confident, dominant, important man would say. Examples would be:
- "Excuse me, can you get me a drink?" (Said half jokingly but with a serious face)
- "Hey Sally! You owe me a drink!" (When she replies that she has no idea who Sally is, you reply back with: "Well, for my inconvenience - I believe you owe me a drink too!")
Have fun with your "lines" and remember it's all a big game - enjoy it and leave a comment of your past experiences using "the line", I'd love to hear them!
Craig is a 22-year-old student studying psychology at Bournemouth Uni. He runs a dating blog aimed at helping every man get the perfect relationship through the psychology of dating.
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I'm sure Craig wouldn't mind you reading a lot :P
•"Hey Sally! You owe me a drink!" (When she replies that she has no idea who Sally is, you reply back with: "Well, for my inconvenience - I believe you owe me a drink too!")
This line will especially get the girl to give you a dirty look and walk away. This says that you are extremely drunk and rather sloppy. It means you will accept a drink from any girl or that she is number 2. It's not an attractive game plan at all. You must make her feel like she's atleast a little special.
do NOT buy her a drink. No matter how much you think she digs you. Trust me, girls will go to stange lengths for free drinks. And it also shows a little bit of weakness if you do so. But do NOT act cocky like you own the place. It's embarrassing to watch. You will become the epitome of "loser at the club". You will be the guy any girl will be ashamed of actually talking to.
well done again, squire!
By putting a drink in a girl's hand, you're subconciously telling her "i don't think you'll like me, I'll throw a drink into the bargain so my value might go up in your eyes. I'll try and buy your affection". You don't need to buy a women anything to get her to like you. In fact, you're most likely lowering your value in here eyes; and it doesn't matter if you look like shrek or brad pitt.
I suppose in some ways it's a form of seeking approval, or at least it has a similar effect.
Yes, I'll admit I've been reading a lot on this subject recently. It's your fault Craig :P