28 July 2009
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This post goes into detail with the top 10 fantasies that people commonly use when they pleasure themselves. These include threesomes, fantasies with famous people, fantasies with a friend or fantasies with a stranger etc which make them perfect to spice up any relationship.
This post will provide you with a list of the top 10 fantasies. By the time you've read this article you will know whether or not your own fantasies are in the top 10 as well a list of other top 10 fantasies you may be interested in trying.
Fantasies come in any shape or form, meaning anything could be in the top 10 fantasies with imagination being the decider. People can have random fantasies about absolutely everything but I've selected what I think are the most common fantasies here for you to enjoy.
Top 10 Fantasies
Let's face it people generally have the same top 10 fantasies. Yet, there are some that people fantasise about more than others; these common fantasies will be the basis of this list. Starting off with what I believe is definitely in the top 10 fantasies - Ménage à trios.
1. Ménage à Trios
Ménage à trios are without a doubt one of the most popular fantasies in today's world. A list without Ménage à trios would not be complete as I'm sure many men and women would agree. Men and women fantasise about a Ménage à trios often and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Normally you'd associate this type of fantasy to be more of a men’s top fantasy, but that doesn't mean women don't like the arousal of a mix and match also.
There certainly is a lot to imagine if you think about a ménage à trios. Maybe you've done it before, and the excitement of remembering that time really turns you on. Or maybe you hope to try it someday, and the thoughts of what you'll do fuel your fantasy. If you don't think you could handle the emotional intricacies of ménage à trios’ fantasies in real life, the fantasy could still thrill you. And perhaps best of all, ménage à trios’ fantasies are the only way you can fit a dozen people in your double bed.
2. With A Famous Person
My favourite would be Angelina Jolie, without a doubt. I rather like fantasy and so do the majority of the population for one reason; power.
Maybe someday you’ll meet Jennifer Aniston or George Clooney, and you’ll get to have mad, passionate love with her or him. Chances are slim though. So in the mean time, if you fantasise about Jennifer, George or Angelina then at least you can have whoever you want anytime you want in your own top 10 fantasies.
It’s the fantasy of being with someone powerful gets people off during these celeb fantasies. Other times, it’s just the fact that we all share a common pool of good looking celebs, whose images we can easily toss into our top 10 fantasies. Whatever it may be, doing it with a famous person is certainly in the men’s top fantasies as well as the woman’s.
3. With a Friend or Someone You Have a Crush On
I’m sure you’ve had a crush at least one time with one person. It’s a normal thing to do and it is also a very common fantasy. Let me visualise a scenario for you to think about so you can see why it is one of the top 10 fantasies.
Each morning when you walk past her desk at work, the smell of her perfume triggers the endless stream of fantasies you’ve had for her. You don't think you should ask her out, because you work together. But it's great to have her in your fantasies each night. You've know her for almost a year, and even though you say that you and her are “just friends,” and even though you're not even all that attracted to her, sometimes it's still fun to put her in your top 10 fantasies. The only problem is sometime when you're together, she catches you looking at her funny, when you are remembering the position that you imagined her in the night before!
It is so common to fantasise about the people in our lives. You see them and think about them all the time anyway, so why not add them to your fantasies?
4. With A Stranger
With a stranger! Have you ever used this as one of your top 10 fantasies? I can tell you that I have! Just encase you can’t quite picture a time, let me visualise you a scenario that may make you remember your old fantasies where something similar appeared.
You're standing on a packed train and pressed tightly against you is a blonde stunner. You feel your bodies rocking together with the motion of the train. Then suddenly she starts to move. Oh no! You're not getting off at the same stop! Once on the other side of the closing glass doors, your beauty looks back at you with bedroom eyes, and smiles. But you're not sad that you missed meeting each other, because you know that you can find each other anytime in your fantasies.
Whether it's the hot stranger you spotted on the train, the waiter at the restaurant when you're out with your girlfriend/wife, the shy woman who lives in the next house, a girl at a bar or simply a person you conjure up in your imagination, the common fantasy of doing it with a stranger allows you to have the thrill, without the risks.
5. With Someone Of The Same Gender
Whether you are gay, straight, or in between, fantasizing about someone of the same gender is natural and normal and it is also one of the top 10 fantasies.
It can be fun to imagine a type of love that you may never have, or to fantasize about a different alternative that you already enjoy or might want to try. Either way, you can experience new ideas and new sensations when you fantasise about someone of the same gender.
6. Force Fantasies, Being Tied Up, and Being Spanked
Would you ever want someone you barely know to rip your shirt off, grab you by the hair, and throw you down on the floor and with their way with you? Most people have no desire to be forced, or to force someone else in real life; however, forced fantasies are way up on the top 10 fantasies.
Bear in mind though, these are fantasies that should never be acted out. (Unless of course you have your partner's complete consent!) However, it's perfectly fine to imagine forced fantasies. If you fantasize about forcing someone, then it could mean that you feel like you have no control in your real life, so you like to be controlling in your fantasies. Or if you like to fantasize about relinquishing control, then maybe you are powerful in real life, and you live to give it up in your fantasies.
Would you ever want your lover to tie your hands behind your back and then put you over his or her knee for a good spanking? People who fantasize about being tied up often crave a “guilt-free” encounter. They fantasise that they can't resist it, because they are tied up. Those who fantasize about being spanked might be into S/M. Or maybe they just like the way it feels in their fantasies. Sometimes it makes them feel as if they are bad and need to be punished, and for them, being bad feels so good.
7. While Someone Is Watching
For some people, this can be very exciting, at least in their top 10 fantasies. You can pretend you are a performer, showing off for the observer and turning the observer on, too. You could fantasise that you are with a stranger and your partner is watching, or that you are with your partner and your neighbour is watching. In reality, you might find it embarrassing to actually have someone watch, but it could work great for one of your fantasies.
8. In Public
Doing it in public is risky in real life. Yet in your top 10 fantasies, while it carries a similar feeling of risk, you don't have to worry about being arrested for indecent exposure. Whatever thoughts turn you on, you can go for. No one can catch you in public if it's only in your mind.
9. In An Exotic Location
Fantasies of exotic locations can take you places you've never been. Or they can transport you back to places you've already been or plan to visit. If you fantasise about doing it in your garden, anytime you want you can visit your fantasies about gallivanting in the garden, without ever having to go outside. If you'd like to see what it's like on a beach during a holiday, you can jump into your fantasies before the plane has taken off. Maybe there's someplace where you'd never have the nerve, like on a roller coaster. Your imagination can put you there, and you won't even have to wait in line for the first seat!
10. With A Former Lover
If you had the most exciting love of your life with your ex, then why not let him or her into your top 10 fantasies? Some people can't stand fantasising about an ex, because when their finished, they get depressed about the break-up or sick by the fact that the ex was around, even in one of their fantasies. But for others, it's a great fantasy they can call on anytime. Its love that you can remember and you know what it felt like. You are just calling on your past to get off in the present.
You got any fantasies I missed? Or feel they should be in the top 10? Post them in the comments and I'll add them into the next version. Also, check out top sex secrets that women love for more ideas on how to spice up your relationship.
Craig is a 22-year-old student studying psychology at Bournemouth Uni. He runs a dating blog aimed at helping every man get the perfect relationship through the psychology of dating.
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Certainly fantasies of mine.
thats one of my fantasies
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